Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Life Lessons From Your Soul - Victims

Everyone knows what it is like to feel victimized by someone else. We have all been betrayed or hurt by another. We have all been through difficulties at the hands or sharp tongues of others. The victim and abuser cycle is as old as time and an archetypal story that gets played over and over, each and every day.

Abusers need victims and victims need abusers in order to keep the cycle going. As a victim, you agree to the cycle of abuse as long as you stay and take it. As an abuser, you will always find a victim who is willing, on some level to continue they cycle of abuse. Victim and abuser are, in fact, two sides of the same coin. One cannot exist without the other.

We live in a society that has a tremendous respect for the victim. We have an entire legal system that is dedicated to ensuring the victims are set free and the abusers are caught and put away - even if it does not always work that way.

We all must travel through the archetype of victim and abuser. It is the classic hero's journey. Our personalities experience this through the lessons of the soul. In this pairing, we are being taught the lessons of responsibility. We are being asked to look at what we have done to contribute to this classic story. What did we say yes to that directly compromised ourselves? How can we make a different choice next time that no longer perpetuates the cycle of victimization? You will know. The truth will come within the lessons.

If you feel you are being victimized by someone, what are you saying yes to? If you are using your victimization to get the sympathies of others, are you victimizing those you are manipulating for attention? Look deeply and be honest. If you are in victim, the abuser will be present. Where can you take responsibility for you?

Call upon your strength to help you answer the tough questions. Allow your soul to teach you responsibility or what ever your lesson may be. You are responsible for you, no one else is. Give the gift of respect to yourself and claim 'victim no more'.



At 1:25 PM, Blogger jeannine said...

hi meg,
as always, i love reading your blog as it resonates on many levels.

in addition to standing in ones light to stop the victim cycle, i believe it also offers the abuser a gift...that is the opportunity to lift the veil of illusion, to break their cycle of abuse and to truly forgive and love themself. i believe if they can do that in the midst of their shame, blame, and pain, then they have truly healed!

At 5:55 PM, Blogger Dr. Meg Haworth said...

Excellent Jeannine! Thank you for adding that comment. Blame, shame and pain are necessary to perpetuate this cycle. It is one of the grandest opportunities to learn the power of releasing illusion and of forgiveness. Thank you for your teachings!
Love, Dr. Meg


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